"I am sorry" when spoken from the heart and with no buts or excuses attached, can be very powerful, liberating and healing.
A sincere and contritely spoken apology has the potential for new beginnings, for old painful memories to be laid to rest. Question is, why is it sometimes so hard to say sorry?
Maybe its because we don't know how to start, what words to use, were not 100% sure we did something wrong, it was an accident, a slip of the tongue, etc.etc. I recently spoke with someone who during a martial arts lesson accidentally injured her opponent to the extent that he ended up in the ER.
She was feeling very bad for him, that she had hurt him so, yet when I asked if she had apologised for causing him pain, she said: "well, it was a class after all, and accidents happen". Excuses easily slips in, we rationalise, we explain, we surmise, rather than just humbly say: "I am so sorry for causing you pain". Saying sorry indicates accepting responsibility and acknowledging ones part in anothers pain, no ifs, no buts, no excuses, no reasons, just repentance.
And amazingly, when we do so, somehow we feel better. Whether our apology is accepted or not is up to the recipient, our responsibility is for our words and actions.
We may think we have all the time in the world for saying "sorry" for words (or actions) which in hindsight we realise may have come out harsher than we intended,
.................but do we?
We may be waiting for someone to say "sorry" to us for the pain they caused us,
......................but will they?
If there is someone you need to say sorry to, don't wait
life only happens.....
now.
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