Have you heard the term "the glass people"?
My son introduced me to it and it has remained at the fore front of my mind. Who are they? They are the people a successful society don't want to see or acknowledge, they are the epitome of "losers". And although everyone knows that being a "loser" is not a contagious disease, the glass people are more often than not, still treated as if they are contagious.
If a person is successful; a winner, because they deserve it, are unsuccessful people; losers, so also because they deserve it? Is it really that simple? Are we all born with the same abilities to cope with the stresses of life?
Natural selection seem to indicate that the "strong" will survive, the weak will perish or struggle for their existence, but does "strong" necessarily mean better? Do only "winners" have something to contribute to society, is it possible to be a "winner" and yet somehow on another level be a "loser"?
In between being a winner or a loser, can one not simply be a participant of life, with moments of successes and failures, or just status quo?
In many societies "winning" has become a social measure of a persons personal worth and value, and if we lose, then there must be something wrong with us, we have the problem, we are not good enough, we are not measuring up, and it's all our own doing so.
So when we encounter the glass people; the tribe of people not coping according to an invisible but inferred "How to be a winner" manual; it is often easier to blame than show compassion.
When someone is deemed not trying hard enough, who sets the standard of what "hard enough" is?
If a person is deemed "weak", who sets the standard for what constitutes "strong"?
We find ourselves living in a world that is basically based on cause and effect; there's a problem, there's a reason for it, the reason will indicate who's fault it is and who or what is responsible for it, who-or-whatever is responsible must then be held accountable for fixing it, failing to do so, means you're a loser.
Someone loses their job, it feels like a personal rejection. A teenager is diagnosed with a mental health problem, the parents feel they must have done something wrong. The adopted child surmises he wasn't lovable enough for his real parents. After 135 rejections the job seeker is convinced it's her fault for not being pretty enough. After five times in rehab, the addict is convinced there is no hope, he/she is a loser. After seven attempts at dating he/she is sure he/she is better off alone.
But what about the variables? Is it not possible that there are many causes and many effects? Could there not be many reasons for why something occurs?
Maybe the reason for why there are glass people, is not so much about the reasons why they become the glass people, but that our winner/loser, success/failure societies has such a myopic view and definition of the terms? Turning on a light switch is easy, explaining what energy is, not so much.
The Glass People; i;e, the people sleeping rough, the drunks, the disenfranchised, the homeless, the many with mental health issues, the war vets, the abused, the run-aways, and many more, are not the losers,..........we who pretend we don't see them, ......we are.
A society which has no compassion or time for all its inhabitants, who finds it easier to dismiss rather than to listen, to reject rather than to include, to blame rather than to investigate, exactly how is it in a position to be labelling anybody a winner or a loser?
When someone is deemed not trying hard enough, who sets the standard of what "hard enough" is?
If a person is deemed "weak", who sets the standard for what constitutes "strong"?
We find ourselves living in a world that is basically based on cause and effect; there's a problem, there's a reason for it, the reason will indicate who's fault it is and who or what is responsible for it, who-or-whatever is responsible must then be held accountable for fixing it, failing to do so, means you're a loser.
Someone loses their job, it feels like a personal rejection. A teenager is diagnosed with a mental health problem, the parents feel they must have done something wrong. The adopted child surmises he wasn't lovable enough for his real parents. After 135 rejections the job seeker is convinced it's her fault for not being pretty enough. After five times in rehab, the addict is convinced there is no hope, he/she is a loser. After seven attempts at dating he/she is sure he/she is better off alone.
But what about the variables? Is it not possible that there are many causes and many effects? Could there not be many reasons for why something occurs?
Maybe the reason for why there are glass people, is not so much about the reasons why they become the glass people, but that our winner/loser, success/failure societies has such a myopic view and definition of the terms? Turning on a light switch is easy, explaining what energy is, not so much.
The Glass People; i;e, the people sleeping rough, the drunks, the disenfranchised, the homeless, the many with mental health issues, the war vets, the abused, the run-aways, and many more, are not the losers,..........we who pretend we don't see them, ......we are.
A society which has no compassion or time for all its inhabitants, who finds it easier to dismiss rather than to listen, to reject rather than to include, to blame rather than to investigate, exactly how is it in a position to be labelling anybody a winner or a loser?
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