Is life easier for the ''beautiful'' people?
Does luck befall good-looking people more than
ordinary looking people?
Is it easier for the beautiful people to make friends?
Do the beautiful people find jobs easier and faster
than us common looking people?
Sadly, but according to scientific research, the answer
is resoundingly Yes.
Humanity is affected by beauty biases.
Although, exactly what constitutes ''beauty'' or
''beautiful'' methinks is highly subjective.
As the quote says: "Beauty is in the eyes
of the beholder.''
According to some statistics, I found that
only 1 - 2% of us humans can proudly wear
the badge "very/extremely beautiful" on our chests.
The same statistics also say that 68% of us are
deemed as ''ordinary/average'' looking.
But, when it comes to classifying the term
is there not a difference between beautiful and
attractive? Pretty and cute?
The word ''beautiful'', may I suggest, is mere skin deep
whereas words such as exquisite, breathtaking,
lovely, attractive and gorgeous includes emotions and
admiration(awe) as well.
When I was playing music for a living I worked
with many, many different people.
Most gigs were performed in night-clubs, bars and
restaurants.
Usually the gigs lasted four hours with a 20 minute
break every hour. During the breaks often
different members of the audience would
come up and chat with some of us in the band.
Well, not so much chat, often more like foreplay..
Somehow being on a stage and playing funky music
made us, the musicians, magically become ever so
much more attractive apparently.
One of the many singers I worked with was
one of those 1 - 2%-ers. Every gig we did,
women lined up to hand this guy their phone numbers.
Admittedly, he was a heck of a singer and he was a
.............. notorious player.(of women)
Watching him with different women every time
we worked, I decided to ask him what it was
like to have women chase after him all the time.
Surprisingly, he told me that he was tired of it.
-What? Nah. I don't believe you.
-Well, in the beginning it was awesome but
lately I have begun to feel like a man**ore,
he said.
-You are a player, aren't you though? I asked.
-I am, but I am also more than that and one-night-stands
have started to bore me, he answered as he lit a cigarette.
His answer surprised me. Was it possible that being
beautiful/attractive came with drawbacks? Then
it dawned on me that maybe he had started to
feel objectified and didn't like it.
It's been said that ''it's hard to change a first
hand impression once we've made one.''
Some say that this is because of the ''primacy effect'',
a cognitive bias where the brain locks onto
early information for efficiency and speed
in making judgements. When it comes to
understanding and benevolent communication
with others....not so much.
My own life experiences have shown me that
first hand judgements though at times very
helpful can often be just as counterproductive.
There are thankfully possible ways to overturn negative
and unhelpful first impressions.
Example: ''Maybe there is another way to interpret
this xyz......I may have made a rash judgement.....''
and, this is my personal opinion...
''the more we get to know and understand someone,
something, the more attractive it/he/she/they become.''
Think of a pearl....
I don't know who the first person was that decided
to ignore the ugly, rock hard outer shell of an oyster,
but I bet ya that he/she was mightily surprised
to find a gleaming white perfectly round ''stone''
inside of it. (Don't think that that person knew that
eventually it was to be named a ''pearl''.)
Beauty, for me, is first and foremost light.
This painting is named ''Glimpses of Beauty''.
I painted it in order to display the importance
of light for the existence of beauty.
Light is vital, light makes our existence possible.
Light is a metaphor for hope, for knowledge,
wisdom and understanding.
''Outer beauty is a gift.
Inner beauty is an accomplishment.''
(Randi G. Fine)
about the images: Top: acrylic on large cardboard ''Isn't she lovely?''
middle: acrylic on large canvas ''Glimpses of Beauty''
bottom: ink & crayon on paper ''I rather be a candle than curse the
darkness''










